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Please…just STOP!!!

Why Over-Apologizing Is Killing You

I know you’ve probably heard this countless times before. That, in and of itself should be cause for alarm. Your ALWAYS apologizing is not only driving us all up the wall, but it is KILLING your self-image.

I know you’d like to consider yourself a person who doesn’t particularly care much for the opinions of others, since there are SOOO very many inhabitants of this beautiful blue-green marble floating amidst the vast wonderland of space, but if that were true, you wouldn’t take so long getting ready in the morning…..especially on Monday’s!

I can tell you that as a man with probably TOO MUCH pride, hearing someone apologize for this, and then for that, then again for something else makes me think there is some event in your life that forced you to think apologizing will; in some form of magic spoken fluently only by Doctor Strange and his constituents make people think of you as a nice, unoffending person.

See, here’s the thing: it doesn’t! It makes you appear weak. Yes, I said it. Weak, timid, too afraid to do what you feel is necessary to get your point across. There’s nothing at all wrong with not wanting to offend anyone, but seriously, you’re going to do so at some point in your life anyway. THIS is not the way to avoid that!


Please, remember that this is just my opinion. Albeit, an unapologetic one, but nonetheless merely an opinion. But, dude…sis…whomever!! Take a moment to reflect on what it is you’d like people to see when your face comes across their existence. Do you want them to envisage a meek doormat? Probably not, right?! I mean, I’m only assuming you’d like to be treated with some semblance of dignity and/or respect.

I get it. You want to come across as a nice person. Take it from me, you don’t always have to, and THIS does….not….help. At all! Most people like other people, and would like to get along with at least a small portion OF people. Part of living life on this planet is understanding that you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea, baby! Some people just like coffee!

Keep it simple! If you meant to do it, don’t apologize. If you didn’t do it, don’t apologize. If you did do it, but you don’t really like the mofo in question, maybe apologize….but keep it light. A simple “my bad” will suffice!

Twenty two apologies, AND a summary in capstone is not only complete unnecessary, but annoying as fuck! It’s like you’re arresting yourself, because anything you say after that initial apology can and will be held against you in a court of opinion.

Not apologizing doesn’t make you a jerk. Being a jerk makes you a jerk, unless you’re my favorite kind of chicken coming out of a makeshift barrel grill on Nostrand Avenue in Brooklyn during the summer months. And, I’m pretty sure I have no plans to wash you down with some sorrel, so pleeeeease, for the sake of your children, STOP APOLOGIZING FOR EVERYTHING!!

About CabSuave

37....I am an architecture loving, fashion craving, culinarily curious big kid-at-heart! I'm never too assuming, and have a life goal of leaving the world a better place than the place I was born into!

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