To provide background for the ensuing rant, let me give you some details about my life.
I am a woman who works 50+ hours/week managing a neurology clinic in an academic hospital that has 30-36 doctors and hundreds of patients. I carry a full-time credit load for school. I am the primary caretaker to my two (mostly) amazing sons. One is a neuro-typical semi-adult at 18 and my other son is an autistic adolescent at 11 going on 25. I also have a poorly behaved but incredibly cute dog and a cat with AIDS.
In my spare time, I do social justice based performance art as a member of bkSOUL , write for this blog twice a week, and volunteer where I can to help topple the 45 regime. I spend every Sunday evening using most of the lines in my Passion Planner for the upcoming week, preparing healthy snacks for the week, and if I am especially productive I get food cooked for at least 2 days of dinner. Shout out Amazon Prime Now restaurant delivery, they currently get all of my monies.😑
All this to establish to you, the reader, why I am about to wile out on folks that waste my fvcking time.
I understand that I am an adult with free will. But when a person in my life requests my time or presence and then proceeds to shit on it without apology, I take it personally.
For instance if it is your birthday and you are arranging a Sunday brunch, I expect that you have shit under control and that you won’t be two hours late. I think that’s a fair expectation. When you show up 2 hours late and don’t even bother to apologize, expect to be told about yourself. Know that I will skip the next event.
If we are in a meeting and you aren’t prepared, I will be direct and ask you if we need to schedule a better time so that you can get prepared. Why are you offended?? I showed up prepared.
If we are dating and I like you enough to make time, appreciate it. Dating is last on my list of priorities and I really hate it. But if I do date you, what you might not want to do, after 6 months of getting my valuable time, is act surprised when I mention we become exclusive. Why you ask?? Because I am not comfortable investing more of this valuable ass time into someone who can’t commit to me. You still don’t understand? Labels aren’t important? Boy BYE! Oh you mad?!?! I ain’t sorry. (Big up King Beyonce, she has a song lyric for every situation)
Some of us have extra hours to toss around, I DO NOT.
Aside from obvious, wasting my time communicates to me that you have no consideration or respect for me and that is very hurtful. Especially during a time when the pace of my life feels like it is at warp speed.
Thankfully, I am blessed to be surrounded by a solid core of phenomenal people who do love and respect me. So when someone doesn’t, it is SUPER obvious, SUPER disrespectful, and I have no problem moving past you.
To all of you time vampires…..
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