So I had a long back and forth with someone on FB and it begged me to ask the question:
Can you love someone and not be Faithful to them?
I was trying to get this person to understand that the words Faithful and Fidelity aren included in the definition of the word Love. I love many things (Mexican Food, Football, clean new kicks, Slurpees, Amaretto, the smell of Fresh Baked Bread) all come to mind. All of which give me a deep warm feeling of comfort pleasure. Does that mean when I eat Chicken wings Im cheating on Rolled Tacos?
Now before you get all “I know this muthaphucka only love food”, yes I understand people are different than food or objects, but is our love for each other that different? How many of us have friends who are our friends but can’t stand each other if we arent around? What about relationships? Like Chris Rock (my favorite sociologist) said once… “The only exciting relationships are BAD Relationships”. Can I love your crazy ass and not be faithful? If If I “look” at another woman am I cheating? Is cheating a symptom of a loveless relationship? What is Love? What is Fidelity?
I think these are all questions best answered by the individual and for those in the relationship to decide. Many people have open relationships and still love the other person. Many people still love their current or ex significant other even when Fidelity is long gone. Yet the opposite is also true. So what is it to you?